Something I’ve been thinking about for a long time.
Regarding the process of redemption. Of getting out of sin and addiction. The hardest part of it all is to start stopping.
Because what keeps people in sin is often shame. Loneliness. The illusion that if anyone knew what you were doing, what you were thinking, they’d hate you for it as much as you hate yourself.
So we keep doing it.
And we keep feeling horrible.
And we can’t tell anyone.
Because nobody else does this. Nobody else thinks this. Nobody else is as isolated as we are.
And yes, I am talking about porn. It’s time to start talking about it.
So, to break things down:
- We’re doing something wrong.
- We’re too ashamed to talk about it.
- We think we’re alone.
- So we keep doing it. Because there’s no way out.
But the idea that you’re alone is entirely a lie. Because lots of people are trapped in this cycle of shame and addiction. So, so many. In church and out.
You have so much company, and a community of people who have broken this addiction and are ready and waiting to receive you, to help you out of it.
Here’s some truth: this thing, this secret thing that so few churches have talked about up until recently, it can’t survive the light. It needs shame and secrecy to thrive. But once you ask God for forgiveness and help – he’ll flood those dark places with light. He is dying to pour his mercy out on you. How it hurts him when you hurt yourself. And he is waiting, just waiting for you to say the word.
Because he knows that sin brought into the light cannot survive.
It won’t die down all at once, the need, the desire of this addiction. But telling someone you trust is the beginning.
You have so much company. So much support waiting to be given.
From friends who may have the same struggle. From the spouse or significant other who loves you.
You are not, I repeat, not alone.
You are not dirty.
You are not beyond repair.
Christ can fix anything. Christ can make all things new.
Tell somebody: start stopping today.
Today is your day.