“I would rather be what God chose to make me than the most glorious creature that I could think of; for to have been thought about, born in God’s thought, and then made by God, is the dearest, grandest and most precious thing in all thinking.”
I’ve started and stopped this post about five times, now. I wrote last time about how integral every person is, and this weekend, two young men from our community left this earth far too soon. I didn’t know them personally…but I know the parents of one of them. They’re extraordinary people, and from what I hear, their son absolutely followed in their footsteps.
So why now?
I have no idea.
It’s hard to write about purpose when something like this happens. But I still feel like I have to.
Our lives, no matter how long or brief, have impact. They are designed for impact. They are designed to bring light and joy to others in their own unique way.
But I know from personal experience that we have a tendency to try to mold ourselves into people we were never meant to be, to fulfill other people’s expectations.
Maybe we’re trying to be the perfect Christian.
Or the perfect friend.
Or the child who just wants mom and dad to notice us.
And meanwhile, the person we were created to be is inside, screaming to get out, trying desperately to breathe.
If you wear shoes that are too small for your feet, they cause physical damage to your feet. Your soul is the same. If you try to be someone you aren’t, you are damaging yourself. Conversely, if you are imposing a ridiculous set of expectations on someone else, you’re damaging them.
I’ve written about this before, but I can’t say it enough: please, be yourself. Don’t conform to other people’s ideas about who you should be. After all, your existence is intentional and by design.
I guess what I’m trying to say (in a very roundabout, late-night-writing-spurt kind of way), is that the surest way to find purpose is to start being YOU. If you’re trying to conform to other people’s weird expectations and ideals, you’re robbing the world of your own unique contribution. Your impact is lessened.
And once you start living life as yourself, you’ll probably find that your ideals and dreams will start to change. Mine did. But more about that later.
One last thing:
Former students especially, if any of you are reading this, know that you’re unique, intelligent, creative, and absolutely an integral part of this world.
I could see that every day.
So please, go live your necessary life.