Something that happens often is that I sit down and write what I think is a perfectly brilliant blog post, and then God says nope, that’s not quite right. Occasionally I even post the thing while knowing it’s not quite right, kind of like plugging my ears and singing “lalalalala” and hoping God won’t notice.
I’m well aware that sounds a little crazy to some of you, that God would care what I write here (or maybe that God exists at all). But I feel in my gut that he does. I’m not going to make the claim that everything I write is God breathed, because I’m not that good at listening to him. But my hope is that he can use me to convey some of his heart to people who read this, despite the fact that my human-ness gets in the way so often.
But to come back to the point, awhile back I posted an article where I dealt with fiction as metaphor and the role of women in society, referencing the character of Eowyn in The Lord of the Rings as an example.
I had to take it down after a few minutes. It just didn’t feel right. My focus was on stay-at-home-momhood vs. marketplace calling, in response to the ideas of some modern male pastors.
Then I realized that the relevant thing isn’t one vs. the other at all.
It’s that women HAVE callings. Callings that will take them beyond the home, whether they choose to be stay at home moms, choose to be working moms, or decide not to pursue motherhood at all.
I have a problem with the following types of statements (these made by a fairly famous American pastor):
“The woman’s domain is homeward. The man’s domain is marketplace.”
“…women, only when pushed because they greatly value the opinions of other women, do not naturally gravitate toward the marketplace.”
I take issue with this, because these statements preclude a woman having a calling that is anything other than motherhood and homemaking.
I propose that every woman has a calling that is beyond those things.
This does not mean that I’m anti stay at home moms – no way. Stay at home moms are fabulous. I also don’t mean to say that raising children is unimportant. Of course it’s not.
However, motherhood/homemaking is not in itself an exclusive calling. If it were, and if the above statements made by that pastor are to be believed, then raising girls would become a futile circle:
Mom raises girl to become a mom, who raises other girls to be moms, etc. That then becomes the purpose of woman. Women would exist to create and train other women to exist to create and train other women.
So where would Deborah fit into that circle? She was married, and I can’t imagine that she didn’t have children.
She led a nation.
Huldah, a prophetess – explaining scriptures to the men of Israel. To the men. Funny that one never comes up when Paul’s letters are preached.
My conclusion is simply this: motherhood is amazing, but it isn’t the only thing women were made for. I can’t imagine teaching that to a daughter of mine: “Sweetie, I’m glad you have hopes and dreams, but your purpose in life is to stay home. Let the men handle the marketplace. God doesn’t need you on the front lines.”
Whether you’re a stay at home mom, a working mom, or not a mom at all, remember that you are a daughter who walks in power.
Don’t let anyone take that from you, or try to limit you.
God’s calling knows no limits.